I used that term one time during a conversation and I got funny looks for it. Obviously, the person I was talking to was NOT a big sister. However, the phrase could use some explanation I suppose.
Big Sister mode is when God gives Big Sisters an essential extra supply of grace just when they need it.
Big Sister Mode is when your parents think your mom just had a miscarriage and is going to the hospital and you keep it to yourself so as not to upset your siblings.
Big Sister Mode is when your little brother has a life threatening seizure and you are bawling your eyes out but then your parents leave in the ambulance and you instantly collect yourself.
Big Sister Mode is when your younger sister almost drowns in a lake and you don’t scream or cry.
Big Sister Mode is when you find yourself in scary situations but know that you are the oldest and if you panic then so will your younger siblings. It’s when you put your emotions aside to deal with the emotions of others. It’s when you stop seeking someone to comfort you and you start to comfort others. You don’t have to be the oldest sister to have it; you simply have to be an older sister. (I suppose you could have big brother mode, but I’m not a brother so I’m not sure. 🙂 ) A friend of mine calls it survival mode.
I’ve thought a lot about those situations since that conversation. Why do I respond that way? I don’t think about it during those moments. I never THINK about going into Big Sister Mode. It just happens.
The more I think about it, the more I realize: it really is just by God’s grace. He provides strength at those times when it is most needed and mine is gone. He gives hope to me so I can share it. He comforts me so I can comfort others.
It reminds me of these verses.
29 He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
31 but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.