Category Archives: encouragment

Giving Grace

If there’s one thing this last month has taught me it’s to give more grace to others. When someone speaks to you in an angry tone, give grace. When someone lets you down again, give grace. When someone does something that you think is weird or odd, (mind your own business and) give grace. Why? Because EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. is going through something that you know nothing about. You have no idea what is going on in their life or what just happened that may be affecting their behavior.

Speaking for myself, (for better or worse), I’m one of the best fakers out there. My head could be about to explode, but I can still smile and ask how you are doing. And I’m willing to bet a lot of us are like that. Much of our suffering, whether it’s physical or emotional, isn’t seen by others. Now, we could probably save ourselves a little bit of trouble and tell a few certain people how we are feeling but you certainly can’t tell everybody.

Maybe we could all try to give others a little more grace. Maybe instead of whispering about that frustrated and overwhelmed mom in the grocery store, you could walk up and tell her she’s doing a great job and ask if you could help carry her groceries? Maybe if someone leaves early from a party, they aren’t really being a party-pooper, but it took all their strength and energy to make it as long as they did? Maybe that person eating a granola bar in church is trying to keep herself from throwing up because of meds and it was a struggle for her to come to church at all? In these circumstances, will you (will I?) be the compassionate person or will you stoop to judging and mocking?

I’ve just come to realize through my own situations that I really only see a very little bit of everyone else’s lives. I want to be the person who assumes the best of people and shares God’s grace freely and abundantly.

Whether or not it’s deserved doesn’t matter because I certainly didn’t deserve it and neither did you. So why not look for some opportunities to give grace and show compassion?

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Posted by on November 22, 2017 in encouragment


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A Daily Prayer

So I have started writing a post numerous times but every time I just get so tired that I never get to finish it. This is not that post. That one will come. ūüôā Sometime…

I have had a lot on my mind lately and this prayer by Matt Chandler has been one that I have said often:

“My prayer, then is, ‘Lord, help me rejoice in You in this moment. Because I know You are in control. I know You love me; I know You love my family. And I don’t understand what You’re doing, and I don’t know how things are going to work out. But help me to acknowledge that if I have You, I have everything.'” ¬†-Matt Chandler, To Live is Christ, to Die is Gain

I love that quote. I say it to remind myself that it’s okay not to know how it’s going to work out. I remind myself that God’s love is unchanging, undying, and he won’t leave me. I remind myself that his sovereignty is my hope and that somehow, with Christ, there IS a way to rejoice and find that hope in the midst of difficulties.

And that’s what I have for you today. That, and this beautiful song to encourage you to find your hope in Christ and what he has done for you.

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Posted by on May 11, 2017 in encouragment


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Big Sister Mode

I used that term one time during a conversation and I got funny looks for it. Obviously, the person I was talking to was NOT a big sister.  However, the phrase could use some explanation I suppose.

Big Sister mode is when God gives Big Sisters an essential extra supply of grace just when they need it. 

Big Sister Mode is when your parents think your mom just had a miscarriage and is going to the hospital and you keep it to yourself so as not to upset your siblings.

Big Sister Mode is when your little brother has a life threatening seizure and you are bawling your eyes out but then your parents leave in the ambulance and you instantly collect yourself.

Big Sister Mode is when your younger sister almost drowns in a lake and you don’t scream or cry.

Big Sister Mode is when you find yourself in scary situations but know that you are the oldest and if you panic then so will your younger siblings. ¬†It’s when you put your emotions aside to deal with the emotions of others. It’s when you stop seeking someone to comfort you and you start to comfort others. You don’t have to be the oldest sister to have it; you simply have to be an older sister. (I suppose you could have big brother mode, but I’m not a brother so I’m not sure. ūüôā ) A friend of mine calls it survival mode.

I’ve thought a lot about those situations since that conversation. Why do I respond that way? I don’t think about it during those moments. I never THINK about going into Big Sister Mode. It just happens.

The more I think about it, the more I realize: it really is just by God’s grace. He provides strength at those times when it is most needed and mine is gone. ¬†He gives hope to me so I can share it. He comforts me so I can comfort others.

It reminds me of these verses.

Isaiah 40:29-31

29 He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
31 but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

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Posted by on February 10, 2014 in encouragment


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The Joys of Slavery

Catchy title, no?¬†¬† I haven’t been blogging much lately because I’ve been preparing posts for over the summer when I’m gone and I’ve also been a bit busy!

I’ve been thinking about slavery a lot lately.¬†¬†My thinking has been prompted by reading the following verses:


“Do you not know that if you present yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness?¬† But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.¬† I am speaking in human terms, because of your natural limitations. For just as you once presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now present your members¬†as¬†slaves to righteousness leading to sanctification. ¬†For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. But what fruit were you getting at that time from the things of which you are now ashamed?¬† For the end of those things is death. But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the fruit you get leads to sanctification and its end, eternal life. For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”¬† Romans 6:16-23

I’ve been thinking: a slave has no choice of whether or not to obey. A slave MUST obey his master no matter what.¬† We have been bought with a price and do not belong to ourselves. We belong to Christ.¬† Recently, when there have been times when I’ve been tempted to sin, I think of these verses and say to myself, “A slave has no choice; he must obey.”¬† It’s been such a help and reminder to me to be holy and righteous to think of myself as a slave!

Of course, there are rich rewards to this kind of slavery:  the gift of eternal life with God!


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Posted by on April 29, 2013 in encouragment


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Quotes for Today

The antidote for covetousness is contentment. The two are in opposition. Whereas the covetous, greedy person worships himself, the contented person worships God. Contentment comes from trusting God.  РJohn MacArthur


If my life is surrendered to God, all is well. Let me not grab it back, as though it were in peril in His hand but would be safer in mine!  РElizabeth Elliot


As long as a man is alive and out of hell, he cannot have any cause to complain.  РCharles Spurgeon


Is it our task to force the biblical doctrine of God to answer to modern culture, or (is it our task) to address modern culture with the biblical doctrine of God? If modern culture-or any culture-establishes the baseline for the doctrine of God, such a doctrine will certainly bear little resemblance to the God of the Bible.  -Albert Mohler


When we become too glib in prayer we are most surely talking to ourselves.  -A.W. Tozer


It is either all of Christ or none of Christ! I believe we need to preach again a whole Christ to the world – a Christ who does not need our apologies, a Christ who will not be divided, a Christ who will either be Lord of all or will not be Lord at all!¬† –A.W. Tozer







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Posted by on October 10, 2012 in encouragment


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New Perspectives

I have a new opportunity before me to be a blessing to someone else.  There is a young, homeschooling mother I know.  She used to babysit me and now I babysit her kids.  I have started going to her house every day to be a help to her.  Cleaning, organizing toys, helping with teaching, and keeping the baby occupied during school time for the older ones are some of the things I help with.

Little did I know that when I went over my first day, the mom would¬†have a terrible headache.¬† She could barely move, it was so bad.¬† At that moment, I was grateful for the migraine I had the day before.¬† I just don’t think I would have been able to minister as well to her if I hadn’t had that experience myself.¬† I wouldn’t have been as sympathetic to her.

Isn’t it amazing?¬† What God has planned for us in his wisdom? He knows what is best for me, even if I don’t like it.¬† So I trust in God, because he loved me before I¬†was born¬†and he enables me to have faith in him. And he is all good, all the time.


Posted by on October 2, 2012 in blessing, encouragment, homeschool


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Respect for Sisters?

Respect is easy to give-¬† to those outside our family.¬† It’s easy to see the best in others and only the worst in those we live with.¬† This is an area I need to work on…a lot.¬† I have a very nasty, sinful habit of putting down my sisters or making fun of them.¬† I have improved some but still¬†have a long way to go.¬† The worst part is, I know the root of the problem-¬†it’s pride.¬† No one likes to admit they are prideful, but sometimes that’s the truth.¬† The world might tell me that it’s not that big of a deal, but God’s Word says otherwise:

Psalms 138:6
Though the LORD is on high, he looks upon the
lowly, but the proud he knows from afar

Proverbs 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but
with humility comes wisdom.

On the other hand, here’s what the Bible says on humbleness:

Psalms 37:11
But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy great peace.

Psalms 138:6
Though the LORD is on high, he looks upon the
lowly, but the proud he knows from afar.

Psalms 149:4
For the LORD takes delight in his people; he
crowns the humble with salvation.

I want to be humble.  To count my family members more important than myself. I want to set a godly example for my younger sisters.  I want to love them like Christ does.

Philippians 2:3-11

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,  who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

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Posted by on September 24, 2012 in encouragment, sisters


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