(This post goes right along with the last one. This is the post where I find it’s awkward to know that some men read this blog. Oh well.)
I’ve been thinking a lot lately on how we should love our brothers in Christ. These thoughts have been brought up by our Sunday School class and THIS book. How should we as girls act around our brothers? What can we do to encourage our brothers to be godly young men? I really love this book and it has really opened my eyes to the (good) influence girls can have on guys. I always knew we could have a really bad influence but never realized how our actions can spur men towards Christ.
The chapter I just finished is on our words. I’ve been learning from the words of Abigail, Rebekah, and Ruth. All three of these women had a positive influence on the men they came in contact with. Abigail deterred David from doing something rash. Her plea to him was full of diplomacy, dignity, and respect. David blessed her for her discretion. Rebekah boldly gave Abraham’s servant more than he asked for. She kindly drew water for him and his camels. Ruth finds and points out the righteous aspects in Boaz and commends him for them. These women knew how to act around men without flirting or going to the other extreme- ignoring them.
I think that in order to avoid flirting, lots of girls then ignore guys completely. From It’s Not That Complicated (this part is written by a man):
“The opposite of flirting is not shunning, it is being friendly. As far as what is flirting and what is friendliness, it honestly comes down to where your heart is. Do you love your brother in Christ, wanting what’s best for him out of your interaction, not what’s most gratifying to you? A good rule of thumb is, ‘If you wouldn’t talk that way to your blood brother, don’t talk that way to a boy who isn’t.’ Also, ask your dad and brothers to observe you around guys; they’ll be able to tell if anything you do is flirtatious.”
Wow. I’m probably one of those girls who, in my quest to not flirt, I avoid talking to guys at all. But that isn’t obeying God’s command for us to encourage the brethren! I’m learning all this now. In the past few weeks, I’ve had such a love grow in me for my brothers in Christ. (Please take that as I meant it!) I want them to grow closer to Christ and I want to encourage them to be the biblical leaders the world is discouraging them to be! I don’t want them to think about me but about their mission to take dominion of the world and spread the gospel! That’s what I want to encourage guys in!
This book, this class, this summer has really changed the way I view men. I used to view them as silly and shallow. A lot of the guys I knew were. This summer, I learned that not all boys are like that. And that made me want to learn what I can do for my brothers! I wanted to know what my biblical duty towards my brothers is. I know now that I need to encourage those silly, shallow boys to grow into the strong biblical men that Christ wants them to be! This is such a freeing responsibility! I’m excited to learn that girls and guys can truly be friends and I’m excited by the influence I can have on the men I know!
“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35