Lots of people think that a girl who chooses to stay home after graduation is just sitting around waiting to get married. They picture that daughter as a princess sitting in a tower just waiting for her prince to come. Sometimes they even imagine that she is being held captive by an evil dragon (parents) who stifles her. They can’t imagine that a girl may love to be at home or that she would choose to give up the ‘equal opportunity’ feminists have worked so hard to give her.
Ahhh….those poor, befuddled people…
I would love to be married but at the same time I realize something. Marriage comes with many cares I don’t have right now. I’m enjoying all the free time I have right now to serve others and I know that some of that will disappear or change forms when I marry. So, for the time being, I’m enjoying it and getting all I can out of it. Now, I’m also told that a wife and mommy has some unspeakable joys that you can’t experience until you’re there. Maybe someday, I’ll have those joys.
Many girls find it hard to stay content at home and long to be married. Here are some things I have learned in this area:
1. Don’t fantasize about your wedding too much. I’ve heard some girls talk about how they have their whole wedding planned out and they aren’t even close to marriage. I’ve never really thought too much about my wedding because I know it’s not all about me. After all, I won’t be marrying myself! My husband has a say in things too! I don’t think a lot about the wedding. I picture years later, after I’ve been married to my best friend for a long time, hoping to see my grandchildren and more!
2. Some things aren’t going to change after the wedding. I mean, after all, you will still have dishes to do, chores needing to be done, and kids (hopefully!) to take care of. I think girls imagine that after they are married, all their problems will melt away. Not true!
3. Make the most out of your time at home. Lots of moms have told me that they wished they had made more out of the time before they got married. I want to be able to look back on these years and know that I served with all I had!
If you aren’t content without a husband, you won’t be content with one. Contentment comes from God! He alone can satisfy.
“Nothing makes God more supreme and more central in worship than when a people are utterly persuaded that nothing – not money or prestige or leisure or family or job or health or sports or toys or friends – nothing is going to bring satisfaction to their sinful, guilty, aching hearts besides God.”
A great article on contentment can be found HERE.