I get that question (or ones like it) a lot. I’m used to funny looks about it and with yes-I’ll-respect-your-choice-but-I-don’t-really-like-it looks. I try to be patient and explain with the enthusiasm I feel.
A stay-at-home daughter is one who has chosen to stay under her Dad’s and Mom’s protection and home until they marry (Lord willing). The Bible talks, in Numbers 30, of a Dad’s duty to protect his daughter until they marry and, in Titus 2, it tells the older women to teach the younger women to love their husbands and be keepers of their homes.
The home is a great place to prepare for to be a wife and mother. Think about it- If God created women to be helpers to their husbands, then doesn’t it make sense that a girl trains for this position? When a man wants to be a plumber, he doesn’t train to be a baker, he trains to be a plumber! And yes, a girl should train to be a helpmeet. There are so many things to learn that will bless her future husband. Not just things like cooking and cleaning- they are easy and can be learned fast. Things like submission and cheerfulness are hard. They take time and work to learn. Girls have such an opportunity to practice with their Dads! They can practice submitting to their Dad and can practice joy in all circumstances! If a girl has younger siblings, she can learn to care for them and can learn patience and by watching her parents, she can learn to discipline biblically.
A girl at home has so many opportunities to bless others, too! She can be actively involved in her church and community. Staying home will look different for each girl. That’s what’s so cool about it! There are so many options and opportunities to serve your family and community! Also, she can be constantly challenged by God and discipled by her parents. Most other people in the world won’t confront you on your sin, but your parents will.
I am so thankful that I have the opportunity to stay at home! Even if I never get married, I want to serve God with everything. I’m thankful for this time I have! My goal in life is not marriage; it’s to glorify God and to enjoy him forever!
1 Corinthians 7:34b says this:
“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.”
I would highly reccommend the book “Joyfully at Home” by Jasmine Baucham for more information on this topic!